Will my tomboy daughter or effeminate son become a homosexual?

The questions below will help parents assess the risk and possibility of unhealthy gender development in their child:1

  1. Does your child display behaviours markedly atypical for his/her own gender?
  2. Does your child reject his/her sexual anatomy?
  3. Does your child prefer to go to the opposite-sex parent?
  4. Does your child adamantly reject the possibility that he/she will grow up to be married and have children someday?
  5. Have you observed any of these behaviours from early in your child’s life, persistently and/or frequently?
    • Dressing like the opposite sex and/or refusing clothes of his/her own gender
    • Preferring toys, games and activities stereotypical of the other sex
    • Preferring playmates of the other sex
    • Rejecting or having no interest in same-sex peers and their games
    • Preferring cross-gender roles in make-believe play or fantasizing about being the other sex
    • Opposite-sex gestures and mannerisms, including voice inflection
    • Insistence on using a name of the opposite sex
  1. Does your child have a warm, comfortable relationship with the same-sex parent?
  2. Does your daughter enjoy doing “girl things” with her mother (e.g., ask mum to do things with her; show mum her toys), and your son enjoy doing “boy stuff” with his father (e.g., play rough-and-tumble; watch/do sports)?
  3. Does your child interact and relate comfortably with same-sex peers?
  4. Does Dad encourage Daughter in developing her femininity, and Mum encourage Son in developing his masculinity?

The more you score “Yes” on Questions #1-5 and “No” on Questions #6-9, the more urgent the need to seek out professional help to address a possible Gender Identity Disorder in your child. 

1. Mike Haley, 101 Frequently Asked Questions About Homosexuality(Oregon: Harvest House Publishers, 2004)