Not all homosexual people promote the gay agenda. We need to distinguish between the homosexual agenda and the homosexual person.
- Overcomer: Persons who have successfully dealt with same-sex attraction to some degree. This can range from completely changing their sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual (perhaps, even getting married to someone of the opposite sex and establishing a family together), to committing themselves to celibacy while still experiencing same-sex attraction. They typically try to distance themselves from homosexual activism but often become unfortunate victims in the debate.
- Struggling: Persons seeking some resolution to their unwanted same-sex attraction. They may have sought counselling or therapy, but continue to contend with whether change is really possible and how “different” they are. The gay agenda does not help them as they desire private intervention, and not for their personal struggles to be the subject matter of public discourse.
- Moderate: Homosexuals who are happy with the way they are and wish to “live and let live” – i.e., have the discretion to live their lives the way they choose. They may become activist if they perceive that attacks on the gay agenda are being directed at them. As homosexuality increasingly affects the public sphere, it becomes more challenging to exercise the proper, nuanced sensitivity towards them.
- Activist: Homosexuals who not only celebrate the way they are but expect others to approve of their lifestyle as well. They proactively push for special rights as homosexuals and can be aggressive towards those who oppose what they stand for. The gay agenda serves to advocate against the hurt they may have faced or affirm the experience and belief that their homosexuality cannot be changed.
Even where there is little common ground for building relationship and when a gentle, well-reasoned response does little to turn away wrath (Proverbs 15:1), we should nonetheless maintain civil discourse as a matter of being loving and truthful in our response.